Mirror.

John-Roger, Peter McWilliams

Mirror.
So we arranged that every time we look outside, we estimate.

(In fact, we tend to judge, but the word "estimate" milder and more suitable for the title.) These values ​​tell us about the people and things around us.

What if these estimates give us also the evaluation information about ourselves! This is the concept of "mirror".

It works like this: the fact that it may seem "true" in relation to the people around us and the things that is true with respect to ourselves.

What do we do when we evaluate something outside yourself? We look in the mirror, the mirror returns to us about ourselves.

At first, this concept may seem somewhat detached from reality. But having begun to use it, you will probably find that it is just wonderful. You may not always like what you see in the mirror, maybe sometimes it'll cause you discomfort, but if you want to find yourself faster (and techniques offered in this part of the book, is precisely designed for this purpose), then viewing themselves in the "mirror" of people and things - a valuable tool for this.

Do you remember the feeling when I first heard his voice on the tape, or see yourself on video? "My voice is not so!", "I do not behave well". However, all of your friends said, "No, your voice is exactly what it sounds. No, you're acting this way."

When we first saw myself on video tape, we wondered how it is with these people, as we can all be friends. Over time, with repeated viewings, we have learned to take his picture in the video and were able to start making changes to your image. (We are happy to consider them enhancements)

Same thing with the mirror of life. You may not like everything that you see in the mirror, but until you take a look in the mirror and do not accept everything that you see in yourself, you will not be able to make those changes (improvements), what you want. Let's say you look at someone and think, "They are angry, and I do not like it." Or maybe you do not like it, because you are angry?

What's the use to evaluate and blame others? Is it teaches us something?

That we can evaluate and blame? We already know that we may well do so.

Mirror shows that we value and blame yourself. Here you have the information from which you can extract some benefit. We can, for example, stop judging and blaming yourself, or at least accept the fact that we judge and blame ourselves. (Most people, revealing that they try and blame themselves, begin to judge and blame the fact that the judge and blame themselves.

In other words, when they notice that the judge and blame themselves, they begin to judge and blame yourself for it. This may be similar to onion sprouts.)

Sometimes we have to slightly change the focus glance to see that out of ourselves reflected in others. For example, someone smokes, and you do not like. If we asked you to look in the mirror, you must have would have said, "I do not smoke, what does this have to do with me?" - "Why do not you love that other people smoke? -" This is injurious to health. "-" Then let me ask you a question: what do you, the fact that does not coincide with the interests of your health? "-" Smoking is not in the bill, it's nothing. "-" What nonsense you indulge? "-" Smoking - a bad habit. "-" What's your worst habit? "-" I Sohryu money. "-" Why do you litter the money? "-" I miss self-control. "-" And on what part of yourself you would like to have more control? "

Get the idea? Are the actions of others, and a judgment about these actions. If we start from the action, which is appreciate, and look at the judgment, we usually as a reflection, we find a similar judgment, which shall make concerning themselves.

It would be ridiculous to spread this idea is not only to individuals but also on things. "This machine does not always work when it is very necessary." - "And what about the fact that you are not working, when you want?" - "The rain always comes at the wrong time." - "And what do you do at the wrong time?" - "This steak is too hard." - "And if you do not try to become a little softer?"

How can this knowledge help yourself? First, it gives you plenty of material on which to practice the art of acceptance. Are you able to take all that you already know about yourself and what you learn about yourself, looking in the mirror the behavior of other people? Your most severe judgment on others, and there is something that you should take with regard to themselves.

Can you do it? We know that you can. You may want to do this? The answer to this question only you know. Second, the mirror will make you focus on something (someone), with what or with whom you can do something.