I would have liked to travel around the world for a whole year, but I can not afford it.
- And why do not you sell your house?
- Yes, but where I was going to live when my journey will end?
- You can rent a house or buy a smaller area.
- Yes, but I can not get away from work.
- Why? You can find a different location.
- Yes, but I can not leave their parents for a whole year! (Or children. Or: I can not prevent children then studied at another school.) And so on, ad infinitum, ad nauseam ...
When there is such a dialogue, and your remarks are composed of phrases that begin with the words "Yes, but ...", whole point is that you're just afraid to follow their dream. In the end, it could change you, free. Maybe you do not quite like this idea. Or you would feel lonely. You might discover some part of himself hidden somewhere deep inside. You could get into unforeseen situations that would not be able to cope. So, be honest with himself. If your conversation flashed the words "yes, but ...", ask yourself what is actually happening. What are you afraid of? And if your big "I" wanted to do something, and a small "I" is afraid of this, how can it convince the frightened part of yourself? (In the end, no matter what happens, you have created the situation themselves, hence, be able to cope with that.)
When we live in difficult times, some typical phrases ever come to the surface. These phrases litter and prevent our lives with joy, they did not make it easy to move to a higher purpose, they pull us down and back. "Yes, but ..." Perhaps it is the most insidious phrase, because at first glance, it seems reasonable, if you are well thought out and act appropriately. It may enter into such a habit that will be a real lock on the path of your spiritual growth and change. Incidentally, it also is the most irritating phrase for your friends, relatives and work colleagues, who are likely to more than the rest want to support and cheer you up!
Another way to block their growth and the thirst for change is the adoption of "I can not." I can not sing, can not dance, I can not sell the house, can not leave my parents, I can not live alone, can not afford to work half-time, I can not quit, I can not find friends with the same interests, I can not leave the city, not I can go to college, I can not ... No, all you can! If you have the desire, coming from the heart, then you can do it. Eventually, of course. There is always a way to do it. In reality, you would prefer not to do so. At least, now.
Listen to yourself over the next few weeks. Maybe you simply justify their obstinacy and saying "yes, but ...". Perhaps you hide your weakness, saying "I can not ..."? By the way, is not whether you're using, and other phrases that are typical for difficult times - such as: "If only ..."," What if suddenly ...", "I should," "I do not have time" or "I'll try, but ..."? Why not change them for it carefree Time. Here they are:
I could ...
I decide to do ...
I decide not to do ...
I will ...
And try to pay attention to the fact that you have to feel, think and choose is different.
I can do all that I really want to.
/ D. Edwards /
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