Please deal with the fact that "there", but not with the fact that "could be"
In difficult times, we always feel insecure. We do not feel security, and our ego begins to worry about what "could be", and represented the worst. This is exactly what Richard Carlson called "brain attack". Suppose you started interesting and promising relationship with a certain Chris, who swore that he would call you at eight o'clock. Your ego is following the arrows chronometer. That has passed away exactly eight, and now it begins to worry and imagine a thousand reasons why the phone is not ringing.
Of course, in the imagination of the most horrifying glimpses of scenarios: Chris or crashed the car, or changed his mind to continue relationships. An hour later, you have already exhausted by a miserable creature, suffering from depression, zhaluyuscheesya on their luck and made sure that it was "unworthy of love." This is what is called a brainstorming session on the full program! Then the phone rang, and Chris, a thousand times apologized and explained that all this time protorchal in traffic jams, not being able to call and warn. So, thanks to his own ego, you spend an hour in fear and anxiety, not having any reason.
Our ego does not know how to live the present moment. It is accustomed to fear, anxiety, unrest, struggle and melodrama. It tries to anticipate all the possible problems, possible in the future. The fight for him - the usual case, and even soothing.
It is like an old worn-out shoes - the test of time. Therefore, our ego feels uncomfortable when life is adjusted, and begins to seek out their own problems, which should have been jittery.
Most of our anxiety and stress is because of those events that could happen: What if your house burns down? What happens if you get fired? What if your child dies? What to do if your wife decides to find yourself a lover? And suddenly you are attacked in some dark alley? But what if your headache is a consequence of swelling of the brain? And so on. Or you can get crazy analyze the events that have already occurred: what is actually meant the head when he said: "The next month, summarize the results of your work? Why your child today so badly eaten? Why your husband planted a kiss on the cheek secretary at a party before Christmas?
At the moment, right now, there is nothing that would cause you stress. All this happens in your brain. As a monk, jumping in front of the tiger and situated on the verge of death, you have two choices: either to enjoy the wonderful taste of berries (see Part 1), which is already here, now - or move themselves to the past or the future and begin to experience that "could be".
When my friend found in his cellar fungus, her thoughts began to Racing Stripes. She imagined a specialist, shook his head and murmuring something like this: "dangerous fungus ... too late ... sorry that did not immediately notice his ...". Then she imagines how to fight the damned mold it goes all the meager savings and, in the end, she has to sell a house for a pittance. Entire life have been broken due to a small, almost innocuous fungus! Then she recovered herself and told herself: "Stop! Nothing has happened yet. Just you found a little mold. Must call a knowledgeable person and ask him what it is. " She was quickly back to the present moment and respond adequately to the situation. (It turns out that to get rid of this fungus was surprisingly easy and very inexpensive.) So, figuring that "there" and not with what "could be", we thus saving yourself from unnecessary stress .
The present moment is our strong point. In English, the same word "present" also refers to "true" and "gift", and the language of the Hawaiian word "and n o 'is even more important: the moment, peaceful, holy and sacred. Therefore we can say that moment is a sacred gift, and if we learn to "be here and now, even in moments of crisis, then we'll be in carefree Time.
I am here and now "
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