John-Roger, Peter McWilliams

Why do we resist the knowledge?
If we are here to learn, and if we have a built-in us the desire to learn curiosity, why are we so strongly resist the knowledge? For example, as usually happens in a familiar dispute over the "Listen to me!" - "No, you listen to me!" - "No, you listen to me!" And so on.

It seems that somewhere in the age of eighteen (add or subtract 10 years) is something inside us decides, "Well, now I've matured. I know everything I need to know, and more than that is not going to know." Why? Let us turn again to the concept of a small child whose life taught by his parents. So, parents - great! They are four to five times more children. Can you imagine what respect (reverence? Fear?) You would experience for the individual four-six-meter height, weighing 300 - 400 pounds.

Imagine a child (two or three), playing in the room. Parents read, the children play, all prekrasnenko. And about an hour later - boom!

The baby hits the table and knocks the lamp. And where there was only a hint of contact with parents, having multiple points of contact - and almost all negative. "How many times have we said to you, You can do anything right? What's wrong with you? It was my favorite lamp! Shame on you, brat!" The verbal tirade can be supported by physical punishment. What child will remember about the evening spent with your parents? Does he remember the calm hours of peaceful game (that is, when nothing is broken), while Mommy and Daddy read, or remember the 10 minutes he filled with cries of "ugly", "disgusting", "ashamed"? Naturally, he will remember the negative. It was loud and scary: imagine a pair of gods rising four or five feet and weighing 400 pounds, screaming at you. Most often this is the only contact that the child had with the "gods" of the evening. (Especially if part of the punishment was an early link in the crib.)

When the main memory of a child's communication with parents ("gods") consists mainly of "no", "no", "stop", "shut up", "ashamed", "bad, bad, bad," then that child learns about yourself? That he is incapable of anything good, that at any moment he must expect setbacks, and still he did not get lucky. In short, the child begins to believe that he or she was initially not good enough, that they are for failures. That they are worthless. The traditional system of education almost no means to dispel this erroneous belief. On the contrary, the school only reinforces this image.

(If we have learned all that we need, even in kindergarten, first grade is vytryasut of us.) You will learn that you have to "earn estimates", otherwise you will be a little cost. If you really zealous in obtaining estimates of adult somebody might ask you, "What did you learn all the time, why do not you play with other children what is wrong with you? Do not you have friends there?" Naturally, feeling worthless, not last long. It's too painful. Therefore, we invent a remedy - a behavior that gives the illusion of security. Soon we notice that others do not only use similar means of protection, but also raised them to a new, exotic level.

Continuing school restrictions.

We become members of the club, which cease to be the same. In fact, we are starting to feel all right. We have companions, associates, colleagues, drinking buddies, etc. What kind of clubs? There are four main types of international clubs, "Let's smoemsya of all this painful injustice." Here they are:

Rebel

Rebels like to consider themselves "independent." In fact, any "law" with which they are faced, gives them the desire to do the opposite. Their distinctive feature - reverse psychology. They believe, for example:

"The best way to keep children from tucking beans in your ears - is to tell them that they have to shove the beans in your ears." Children prefer with nothing to disagree.

The most terrible thing for them, the statement: "Youth must respect their elders."

The slogan: "Hey, clever, you tell us that we are bad. Then, pundits, is YOU - bad."

The motto (without the first word): "... I love you and the horse on which you came!"

If the one who tells you that you are bad, very bad, then, somehow, it makes you good. Somehow.

Airy-fairy

These are people who are not constantly present, where they are present.

They are not dumb, they're just staying somewhere else: on a desert island, a rock concert, a reception where treated to ice cream. They are masters of imagination. They are not stupid. However, they bend over backwards to seem deaf, drunk as a skunk sleeping or anyone with whom they do not want to deal with. They just want all the clever people left them alone.

The most terrible thing for them, the statement: "It is best to know that you know nothing."

The slogan: "You can not expect me to much, so you can not criticize me because, well-oo-oo. Yeah, what was I?"

Motto: "Eh?"

The real world knocks them out of the rut, so they Retiro in the fantasy world of which they may be.

AMATEUR COMFORT

They are the ones who hide in comfort. All that is (or can be) uncomfortable, avoided (unless it is "avoidance" itself does not cause further discomfort), and anything that can bring comfort (food, entertainment, television, player, booze, drugs), becomes the subject of desire (if it does not find such a problem.)

The most terrible thing for them, the statement: "Scholar, who cherishes the love of comfort, can not be considered a scholar."

The slogan: "Comfort at all costs!" (Only if it is not too high.)

The motto (borrowed from Tolkien): "The Hobbit lived in an earthen hole. Not a nasty, dirty, wet hole, filled with the remains of worms and slime, but not in a dry, bare, sandy hole, which could only sit and eat: this is was a hobbit hole, that means comfort. "

They remember exactly the mottos as you need to feel comfortable.

SEEKERS OF ENDORSEMENT

The best way to prove their worthiness and self-sufficiency - is to have around a lot of people telling you how great you are. These people are trying so hard to get approval (preferably) or the acceptance of others even if they have very little time, or not at all is to seek your own. But their own approval does not matter.

They finally worthy and what is opinion unworthy people? They are like the reverse side of the rebels: Rebels consider other people's opinion worthless; approval seekers consider the opinions of others too worthwhile. They have agreed to become president of the class, but they are afraid of ridicule, so they usually win by a landslide treasure hunters.

The slogan: "What can I do for you today?"

Motto: "A nice little sweater!"

Without such people, raft, sailing to the house, would never have been built.

You will probably be able to easily refer your friends to this or that distinguished club. If you are unsure where to rank themselves, ask their friends. A similar view, and will be the answer, but maybe he does not love you.

(NOTE: If you reject the idea that you fall into one of these categories, then you are likely to rebel. If you are willing to accept the praise of your friends, then you're probably looking for approval. If you forget to ask, then You head in the clouds. If you are afraid to ask, you are looking for comfort. If your friend says, "You do not fit into any of the categories, you have a little bit of each," it is likely that he is looking for your approval.)

Most of us at one time or another pay tribute to each of these clubs. We can, for example, be a rebel when it comes to speed limits, which are absent when it comes to taxes on income, lovers of comfort when encroach on our bad habits, and seekers of approval in intimate relationships. This is all well as four basic ways to avoid knowledge. Rebels and do not need to learn; hovering in the clouds do not remember, why should they, they who are in the comfort of the case are too risky, but approval seekers want all the time to keep afloat. Most of us own a combination of all four varieties - and a little bit of both. All this is probably what keeps us from knowing exactly what we wanted to know. How can overcome these ancient barriers? Tools, techniques and practice, practice, practice. Where do you find these tools?

(To be continued)