Paul Ferrini

Learn to listen

You're so obsessed with what is happening or not happening in your life that you do not have time to get a taste of their own experiences. You do not feel your own pleasure or pain, anger or sadness. How sad, but true.

You spend too much time to solve external problems. But if you took the time to be alone with him, the answers to the questions would come spontaneously.

Learn to attend to their own experiences. I do not say "try to understand them." "Dwell in them" was not analyzed.

On the contrary, realized that to understand the experience you can not. You can either be with him or to talk about it - and, therefore, not be with him.

Every moment you get tips that can help you turn the ship of life on the right course. But you will not hear these tips, if not an obligation, of time to "be" and "hear."

Ironically, you just try harder to understand and "fix" their problem is in those moments when the most important thing to keep calm and listen.

At first, you do probably do not realize. But you can not fail to notice that the more carefully you try to understand what is going on, so it gets confusing.

Sooner or later you give up trying to "force" the life be what it is, do you think it should be. And then, perhaps, you ask the question, "Why am I going through this transition? Maybe I should change something? "And you learn to listen to the answer.

If you are moving a course fraught with disaster, the answer is likely to be something like: "Do not take your time, look around. Maybe, in fact, you are going not where you think. "

The answer may not be so meaningful, but it is enough to help you take the next step. Stop and look around - this is the beginning adjustments.

So far in your life, everything flows smoothly, there is no need to correct something. But when a storm water makes better stop and check his course.

This timely introspection in itself will make your life in a profound transformation. There are times when the surrounding reality envelops you as an impenetrable fog, which can only move in one direction - inward.

I urge you to meditate for two hours a day. But I do not deny the benefits of daily meditation. Just saying that in life there are times when you need to calm down and listen. Learn to give them their due, you will avoid many disappointments.

The harder you will be to learn to listen to yourself, the more "you will at the same time" with their short-term experience. You have to form partnerships with their own lives, will their willingness to participate in an event, feel and experience it.

When you refuse to find time to spend with your experience, you're, like, become a victim of what is happening to you. This is - the greatest self-deception.

You begin to relate to their own experiences, as something which must be overcome and controlled.

And when the experience refused meet your expectations, imagine that you unjustly punished. But no, this is just the negative effects of your desire to control.

You close on their own experience. You do not set him a permanent relationship. 're Not dialogue with it. Therefore, it is not surprising that you are with him in the love-hate relationship.

You love it when it suits your views, and you hate when it is not. Your experience - black and white. Life is either completely favorable to you, or always punishing.

The truth is that life is not favorable to you or punish. It works on you to help you wake up and realize who you really are.

Life - your teacher. It has always maintained with you feedback, constantly corrects you, but you do not want to listen to it.

Decide to listen - then agree to become his life partner. That is, to dance thoughts, actions and amendments granted to experience all of this as a necessary, but not unpleasant part of the learning process.