the list of their roles

We go through life with a set of unique qualities. Gets something better, something worse in one area we are more successful in other - less. For this situation we have long been accustomed to, having decided once: "What is -" and "No good - not good looking. But if you sit in silence, to recall the repeated year after year event, we can see that our success can interfere with patterns of behavior. And can retard the development of important, but unsolved quality, undeveloped and unrealized Archetypes "parts" of ourselves. If an analysis of life, we can see that people tend to live according to the template, not noticing how this pattern is reflected on the achievements, the quality of relationships, and attitude are, in general.

Check yourself, choose from the following pairs that corresponds exactly to you, in your opinion:

Marked female energy / male energy Expressed

The role of the adult / child role

Speed / sensible

Dreamer / realist

Acquiescent / "bending his line"

Generator of ideas / Artist

Brave / Cautious

Wasteful / thrifty

Until enough ...

What we can see from this simple test?

The fact that in many situations, we can behave the same way, according to our dominant by selecting or "Black" or "White", and not reacting to this or that nuance of the situation. In other words, our patterns of behavior, attitudes, assumed the role of the hamper to be flexible and do not allow to reach maximum success.

Imagine for a moment, how to change your life, how it will sparkle with new colors, when you expand the list of their roles and be able to skillfully apply them in life, for the benefit of themselves and surroundings.

If the intuitive feeling that your habitual behavior bothers you in one way or another, you might be able to change the entrenched virtuosity, but not always successful way to respond to the situation on the opposite?

Based on the postulates of practical psychology, unsuccessful in some people just do not see any alternative to their behavior. In other words, he would be happy to get a different result, but in his "world map" no skill to respond to the situation differently. A person can often act only as he was accustomed to do for years.

That's why there are different courses, when in a friendly atmosphere, in advance, in light of the situation, which people consciously controlled, gets a new skill.

And then all of a - Oil:

This creates a situation, a person chooses how to behave most successful. This is a conscious process of a strong man. In one situation he was a warrior, and in the other - can lose the battle, knowing that in fact - is winning. In one situation, he critic, while another tries to listen and understand the interlocutor's point of view. And he can easily move from one role to another.

Extending choice behavior, response to the situation a person becomes stronger, richer, more flexible!

Think of some examples of his failures.

This could be a situation at work, career, or personal relationships. This may be a situation when you are parted as enemies with a certain person. This may be a situation where you have not achieved desired.

Think of one of these situations in detail.

Now imagine how it would be decided very wise and successful person. The wisest, most understanding, highly spiritual man. For example, your ideal.

Could he solve your situation successfully? Understand your position and the position of other people? Find a good, trying on the words and helpful advice for all participants considered your situation?

Sure!

Wise, a successful person would be able to resolve your situation so that everyone liked it.

So this is not the situation itself, but in the flexibility of behavior, the choice of a scenario of the situation. And how to become as wise, successful man, the ideal? Or at least a few steps closer to that ideal? Only by acquiring a skill greater choice of life scenarios, and then fixing it day after day, rejoicing in the new achievements, new qualitative relations, small and large victories.

It should be a good practice, to feel, to see by example how the quality of a particular person to the environment and on ourselves, our lives, the lives of colleagues and friends. Need to understand what and how changes in the world, where changing your behavior, your normal reaction to everyday events of life.