Loaf - it means spending time idly, to dream, aimlessly wander somewhere, in short, do nothing. In his wonderful book, "If you want to write" Brenda Ulend notice that people who are constantly rushing, and always busy with something, reminiscent of the "waltz mice. They never allow themselves to slow down their lives and their thoughts are "small, short and abrupt, while those who can relax at any time, and just doing nothing, have a" slow, big ideas. " This is an excellent description of the differences between the periods of careless and difficult time.
If you're accustomed to live in difficult times, while indolence will seem a waste of time. Nasty small voice will annoyingly remind you of how much you have in front of unfinished business! Our Ego is usually confused futile fuss with the state when you really appreciate. Permanent employment is meaningless and doomed to failure.
The reality is that our box with "incoming" cases will never be empty. There is always a mass of studies that need to finish. So if you think you can relax only when all cases are over, you should know: even while lying on his deathbed, you will realize that you have left something in the rough. (It may happen that your body or the natural self, tired of your endless diversions and employment, to force you to stop and rest, but it does have as a result of serious illness or accident.)
Idleness may be that you just look out the window, with pleasure to lie in the bath, sit on a bench in the garden, aimlessly look through magazines, watch the river flow by or for children playing in a nearby park. The positive side of doing nothing is that it enables you to "turn off" of his busy "I" and move into a phase of carefree time. (Even if this time you continue to worry about their own affairs and are afraid of something does not make it, then you still will not idle.) When you're lazy, you can always pleasant, if you find yourself in an atmosphere where time does not exist. Typically, this condition is accompanied silence and solitude, as only then you are all alone with his soul.
If you think that is unacceptable to you simply sit and do nothing, you can find easy and pleasant experience, which promotes relaxation. For example, walking, sailing, horse riding. You can bake a cake, do painting or embroidery, or even ironing, if you relax. But (and this is very important!) To do it all very slowly, so that you have found plenty of time for dreaming and reflection. You can enter the long walk in order to carefully and thoroughly (slowly!) Think about some problem or look for inspiration.
One way to arrange a similar relaxation is the following. Give yourself a word that one-tenth of each day you will be given to idleness. These are two or three hours a day. (If you miss a day or two, it does not matter: you catch up later, for example, indolence devoting a whole day.) I call this time of the Goddess - the time for the "simple life".
For our rational mind idleness seem nonsensical, but it gives us access to our female energy, that is, to 90 percent of the brain - the source of vision, inspiration and a higher purpose. It helps us to live in the here and now. In the words of Ram Dass, known spiritual teacher: "For the good deeds you want a whole pound of tranquility. Why not start it now?
Simplify your life.
Joan flew into my office for consultation in an expensive suit made to order, and in high-heeled shoes. Her lips were wearing makeup bright red lipstick. She managed a thriving advertising company, had two teenage children, three times per week worked in the gym. To me she came because I was in a state of depression. "I grew up with a firm belief that I will have everything and I will be happy only if I will work hard and I'm feeling lucky - told Joan. - And here I stand before you. I envied by many people, and sometimes I am seized with a feeling that just want to die. "
Like many successful people, Joan has lost control over their lives. She was accustomed to the constant release of adrenaline into the blood, to the endless work, hectic and "jobs involving all hands." She kept glancing at his watch and did not know how to jump out of the carousel. Outwardly, everything seemed fine, and Joan always "put on" a smile on the face of the winner. But inside she felt devastated. Her children rarely saw his mother, and Joan was already thinking about how to sell his company and start a quiet simple life, until it is too late.
Our ego is trying to deceive us, asserting that happiness is "out of us." This can be a success at work, wealth, power, wealth or love of victory. Deep within ourselves we understand that this view is erroneous. Nevertheless, many of us have succumbed to the temptation of false promises of a hard time and started to work even more, buy more, aim higher, to take on unnecessary liability. Some even try to search for the mythical assistant, who miraculously change their lives. In the end, we are "twisting" on itself so much the requirements and prospects that it becomes impossible to just relax and enjoy life.
Similarly, we can feel the exhaustion in the event that the house around us surplus items. Currently, consumers pressured from all sides, forcing him to spend more and more money. In the end, it turns out that our house is cluttered with things that we do not need. They complicate our life, pollute the mind and distract from the main. (Before you make a purchase, ask yourself: "But if this thing will improve the quality of my life?" Do I really want it? "Perhaps it merely adds rubbish my house?")
In a carefree time it becomes clear to us "enough that it is". We develop a clarity in relation to the ultimate goal, we know that for us all, and that - secondary. And very often we want to simplify life, make it balanced. Of course, this does not mean that we should live in a wooden shack without running water and electricity.
We have in mind, that is to get rid of unnecessary things, which we downloaded, and does not interfere, of course, be more selective about how we spend our time and money. When the external world becomes easier, then our inner world of thoughts and feelings, too, begins to strive for simplicity and clarity. From my own experience I know that if this reduced pace of life, then you begin to clearly see what is really significant, and then you can fully enjoy the simple pleasures.
If you feel inside that you wanted to be simple, take a pen and paper, "go inside yourself, and ask for their supreme wisdom:" What must I do to simplify your life? "Do not worry that you can be a big change . For example, you can move into a small house, to move from city to village, to quit your job or get a part-time. You may have to completely change your wardrobe, throwing out all my clothes. It is possible that you will be closer to another path, a gradual transition, step by step. First, you refuse to listen to constant news, become less walk to the shops or stop at two or three colors of clothing that you really are going. Trust your heart and go for it!
/ D. Edwards /
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