For many years, all we are trying to hide away any of their quality, which we consider the negative: we are ashamed of them, frightened, and they are unacceptable to us. It may be unreasonable endless tears, anger, envy, grief, painful memories, or any other desires and aspirations. In fact, our shadow is rarely so disgusting and frightening, as we know it. Often it contains and "gold nuggets" such as, for example, courage, laughter, creativity and joy, because we often grow up feeling ashamed of their best and highest quality. Sooner or later we need to reunite these lost parts of themselves, that is our dark and light shade.
If you look at their strengths and weaknesses of quality, the opposite is likely to be in your shadow. For example, if you're an extrovert, the introvert you are in the shadows, if you're a pacifist, in the shadow resides aggressor. If you think about what qualities you most admire in others or, conversely, annoying, you can be sure that the same belongs to your shadow self.
It is very risky to try to suppress a part of himself. This creates an internal conflict, reduces the viability and carries energy. From the side we can seem two-faced. We might even get sick because our body needs to express all that we are trying to deny. Some are forcing their children or relatives to act as shadows. (Maybe your children are teenagers, just do what leads to the horror of yourself: get drunk drunk, sleep with just anyone, or dye their hair green? "And your favorite does not lead you out if your uncleanliness, laziness, or cynicism? Or maybe he is too arrogant or cold toward you? If so, perhaps all of the above and have your shadow?)
Our shadow appears through the worst anti-social behavior. Many therapists (and me too) have met patients who were solicited for the priests, because the latter always had to deny and repress their own sexuality. There are soft, quiet people who suddenly explode and start to rage after years of suppressing their own anger. Our "dark" side does not necessarily have to be bad, but it can not become one, if we constantly deny and suppress it. "Dark" means merely "hidden from the world". You have only to possess it, and you will be able to release her gifts.
Respect your shadow does not mean to act the way she wants it, completely and unconditionally. It is understood that you must be logged in balance with itself. For example, if you are an ardent supporter of healthy and beneficial foods, you sometimes it's nice to eat, say, a piece of chocolate cake. If you consider yourself a pacifist, you nevertheless have to respect their feelings of anger and own it. Try to see its positive side. If you're always nice, friendly and welcoming to all, why not let himself sometimes in the morning to be nasty and capricious capricious, even if the only people you're insulting and cursing, would be an ordinary wall? As noted by Jung, highly developed quality can easily go to the opposite. Therefore, we need to know your own shadow.
Theologian Matthew Fox told an interesting story about a woman who is always and everywhere seemed genuinely joyous and happy. When he asked this woman, how she had so turns out, she opened to him his secret. Once a year she found in the mountains of the worst hole in the remote canyon or a cave and stayed there in total darkness for three days. During this time she managed to meet all their inner demons, and then could easily go out of the cave, feeling happy and whole again.
Of course, we do not have to climb into any cave, but to meet with his own demons is necessary. When we move into a carefree time, this process becomes more natural and simple. We cease to judge themselves (and others) but that we all - people understand that need not be "perfect", feel at ease with their emotions, contradictions and inadequacies. Such self-love opens the door to our inner wisdom, mental ability and of superior quality, that is, to our light shades. (If you use the terminology Khouna, we comes close with its main / natural "I" and with their higher selves.) As embodied mysticism, we become more "humanlike" and ordinary, and simultaneously more "divine" and the extraordinary. When meeting with his inner demons, we will spark the birth of angels inside.
I respect every part of its integrity.
/ D. Edwards /
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