So, is it necessary to punish their children? Answer: YES!
Recently, with the developed West and the East with a wise mother and Russian pop craze spread to educate children on the supposedly progressive techniques.
For example, some Japanese technique of raising children, according to which the child can not speak at all "no" or "not". Western "enlighteners" also in this regard is not lagging behind.
Already in some quarters, Russia has become a popular style of upbringing "a la Anastasia", which is described in his books, Mr. Megri.
Here in front of the child "enlightened" mother in the true sense of crawlers on one's knees, bow to him, that he supposedly felt himself to be God.
In general, methodically mad mother, and some pop. About then, whom they brought up as a result of this newfangled "Education", I was silent. Dependency - it is little to say. Pigs - it is closer to the truth. :)
I want to say about this next. Never in front of the child, parents should not crawl! Humor to every child, providing him all his life, parents do not have to!
Parents should be the authority for the child, rather than vice versa - the child to be the authority for the parents.
Every parent should be the authority for the child, the child should be punishment. But they must be extremely rare.
The parent must indicate the child what his actions and behavior are welcome and which are not welcome, that you can do and what not to do and that is good and what is bad.
For the good encouraged, the bad punished. How to punish a child? Of course, not violence. Violence against children is condemned by all psychologists.
But I must tell you that a pair of spanking hand for pope at a time when the child behaves in a very disgusting, disrespectful, or roll hysteria (this is often a spoiled child) never came to harm, but only in favor of his sanity. :)
What, then, to punish the child, not violence? The answer is simple - the deprivation of the benefits that have value for the child.
These benefits may be able to play with someone, take a walk, watch cartoons, eat something delicious ... In general, to decide that a child has value.
The important point! The child should clearly understand what penalties exist for him, for what it can to punish as to why such behavior is punished, as well as the amount of punishment.
Parents are obliged to explain that all children and ensure that all children understand. This will prevent this behavior, which demands punishment.
Children are not fools - all well aware, if they explain. :)
The penalties should be. The child must receive negative feedback. Of course, the original should talk with your child and explain to him that some forms of behavior is unacceptable, and if they continue to occur, the punishment would follow.
What is the child's behavior should be punished?
I believe that mudrstvovat it is not necessary - it is all the actions that are considered socially unacceptable in the society. Among them may be such - lies, slander, property damage, theft, inflicting violence (eg hitting peers), directed aggression, disrespect, humiliation of another, capricious behavior, etc.
If you wonder, dear readers, this list, then I suggest you go to any Russian kindergarten in any group - and you for one day your eyes will see live examples of what I just wrote. This is life!
And by the way, your child in kindergarten may be not the way it is at home.
NLP, HYPNOSIS, PSYCHOLOGY
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