To get started, you should understand that such behavior is a son - a direct result of your illiterate upbringing. It is you, Helen, son, give riding orientation in life. And who else?
Never give a child a lot!
Giving a child to be exactly so, how much he earned (earned, did). Your excessive "Davani" son - this is just a style of education, which I strongly condemned in his recent submissions (when "mother" live for their children).
There is! Enjoy the "mother", which you educate a child - to the successful work they have already been unable to! Experience shows that the personal life of these children into adulthood too, will not go well.
Why?
Because they always expect that their partner (husband, wife) should give them as much love (attention, money, care, etc.) And they, in turn, did not have to give! And the needs of their partner, they have never been interested in!
Represent?
How do I explicitly wrote one woman in their private correspondence: "And I do not care that there are men! I am only interested in my needs, and men needed to take more from them ".
All would be good, but normal men do not need such Dura in any capacity!
Alas, such people do not want and can not give anything else. They must be all around! They are taught only to take, take and take. And teach them that the parents who have just given them, gave and gave, almost without requiring that they have made great efforts for the benefit.
Experience shows that such people, having grown up, did not achieve in his life. Why? Yes because they are not trained to give something to people - whether it be a fruitful work, deep knowledge, skills and abilities, their own ideas, feelings or love.
Even in a sense they are sparingly! For them, love the person - this is the same as "to receive love". No more, no less. "Giving" they can not. Not learned in childhood that their parents!
Now I'll answer the question, what do Helen?
I must say that the reverse "fade installation" in humans is very difficult for even a psychologist. Especially if people are already an adult. But you can!
Helen should stop son something to give. Suppose he earns himself. He should understand, feel for his own skin, that the real life outside the university and the family in which all "plyashut" around favorite, this is quite a different life!
This is life, in which no one will give for free, no one on the head with iron would not be! Life, which receive various benefits, you can only exchange them for the results of their own productive labor.
So, if your child is learning on a paid department - should stop paying money for his education. He must make himself.
Hard? And what to do! Who is easy? It is necessary to fix its "Education".
Of course you can argue - they say, without education, he did not achieve in life. But the conversation is already known to my readers!
For example, a conversation that traditional education, in fact, does not teach anybody anything. What can you with the same success at home reading books and lectures - and all with out success.
But the main thing is not even in this, as in the other! The point is that with the orientation of your dependent son EXACTLY NOTHING in life is not reached. A diploma - it is not important. No diploma can be your son, for example, such as Abramovich.
As it is known, have no Abramovich no diploma. And why should he diploma, if he already knows how to work and not sit "for the pope" of any company, expecting that he will bring everything on a plate "good" Parents or "good" Head?
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