How to behave, and that the child grew up alone?
I will tell you how to do it. This is a very, very simple. To raise a child alone, in my opinion, much easier than to bring up his "dependent". Like the paradox, is not it? No, there is no paradox here. This pattern!
To raise a child alone, should stick to just two basic rules. Rule number one: "Thou shalt not make for the child that the child is able to do myself!" Rule number two: "Обучай child to do their own".
Dear readers, follow these two basic rules simplifies life, first of all, you (as saves you from a whole heap of routine cases, and allows to focus on "his case", rather than on caring for a child).
Secondly, the child (because it prepares them for independent living, teaches him to cope with challenges and difficulties). Well, just the future "Strong Personality", is not it? :)
A child should not interfere with their parents to live! Personally, I do not want my child to disturb me to live - to work, go about their business, fun, fun to spend time, have sex, in the end. Therefore, my task as a parent, it is easy - simply teach a child to do SAMOSTOYATLNO.
Children - cunning creation. They must be such as to survive in order to receive benefits for life. Many children lead their parents in the nose! Manipulated by their parents.
There is no need to treat the child as stupid and nesmyshlenomu merits. Children - are cunning manipulators. And they will seek to obtain benefits (attention, care, nurturing, love) at any cost.
Suppose you decide to engage in sex with his wife. And in the next room a young child. And that child is literally through the wall, feels that without it happens that something interesting, and he did this not perepadaet! :)
And then the child starts to squeak, bleat, to call my mother on what a ridiculous question. Mother (not having any to start or finish) a breakneck rushing to his head to Chad to check what there is to him?
The child begins to understand - is it to call my mother, even on an imaginary occasion, and the "mother" pribezhit the same hour! Cheers! Now you can complete program to manipulate the "mother". Gradually, this is a habit. Then - in the way of life. :)
"Pop" without sex begins to become brutalized and increasingly considering how to find a woman on the side? "Mother" becomes a maid for her child. The child becomes "idol" family. Everything in the house is subject to his Majesty the child!
So there should not be.
To this has happened (or some such), the child must be accustomed to autonomy. Teach a child once bed wheel - all the more for it, you are not doing. Teach yourself to sleep stowed - the same thing. Why do you unnecessary problems? A child should not hinder you live.
Of course, the child will at first resist. Everyone wants halyavki! And especially to children. The child must be dreaming, that the whole-life of myli, washing clothes, food, dress, fun, spent time with him, reading - in short, "breathed in popular"! :)
Please note, dear readers, that many adults are not far gone in their psychological development of children. Many adults also dream of halyavke! To love and appreciate them, kissed in the population and were on hand. Especially those "sin" Women.
Br-r-r, can not tolerate such infantile women! :)
However, dreams of халяве not materialize. We, the people must grow! And just evolved, becoming self-sufficient, we can see that this is happiness! Happiness - that to be strong. Be strong - be it financially, psychologically, emotionally, culturally and ideologically independent person. :)
So, a child in my family, one is sitting at home when my wife and I go. How does this happen? Very simple.
The first time we went with the wife of the house briefly, and left his home alone. We have been warned, would soon return. It seems, from the child was cry, roar. We went out briefly, only to store and back. For the second time he had not cried when we left the shop.
Then we have to go on a long term and not just in the shop. Then we have to go on all evening, and offered the child not to wait for us, and go to bed. In general, he very quickly proved to be the one and the packed bed.
In case he wants to eat, leave the food. Cooking, of course, we locked because there gas cooker, home appliances and all that, in general, dangerous to inquisitive children.
This was an example for illustration.
In general, a child aged 2-3 years had absolutely does not prevent me to live, sleep, go about their business, away from home. Were initially different manipulations on his part - outrage, dramatics, whims, attempts "to pity", etc. But we do not take it! The family must be an order.
Procedures should be in everything - first and foremost in the family! Start with your family - and then throughout the State will also be the order. :)
When my wife and I have heard that in a family child three years old still sleeps with the mother in one bed, we are perplexed ... A woman should be with a man. The child should sleep alone. Period.
And now I ask your special attention, dear readers. I would like to share with you is very important thoughts!
Nature is arranged so that the child is emotional, psychologically tied to their mother. Mother to him - this is the source of all blessings. Many mothers enjoy this attachment, because it teshit their pride.
Here, they say, as I want! Here, they say, as I needed! Here's mine, what I valued person!
Many mothers do not want to lose this child's dependency on them. If they lose this dependence (ie, the child will be emotional, physical, ideological independent), the self such mothers fall.
How then will they amuse their own sense of importance? Do something they have no no! Acquis, in social life, they do not have any!
It turns out that in order for such self "mother" was always at a height, they must love their child. That is why they are not trying to make the child as soon as possible and send it to an independent "in free floating".
What they are in such a case will? What then is the meaning of life? As they are in such a case, increase their self-esteem? By whom or what? These questions (somewhere deep in the subconscious level), afraid of mother.
Dear mother! Enough to make a child of Infanta, and with this amuse my self-esteem! Take the case! Only I am aware of all the complexity of your situation and the impasse, I can help you!
Let's look for new meanings in life, look for a business to promote your business! It's much more interesting, entertaining and useful for you and for society as a whole! :)
I believe that task-based mother - so as soon as possible to make your child alone, and send it "in free floating". And do not bind the child to imagine!
In the 10-15 years old a child must have to himself. And he is quite capable! We are now growing 20-year infantilov, which in its 20 years of life may not know or do not know how to earn money. So there should not be!
This mother should endeavor to save the child from his "centered" on it. Gently press and mother should teach children to play, to take care of themselves, maintain themselves. If a child runs up to you as the tail, then your problem - slowly and persistently break from the psychological attachment to you.
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