The roots of the weak (or strong the person) comes from childhood. The style of education, as well as the overall socio-cultural environment in which the growing child, in most cases crucial to determine how a person that child will become in the future.
Children should bring up, creating an environment conducive to their development of such qualities as determination, perseverance and hard work. This is the first axiom of education a strong personality. On its own, the child will never grow strong and will not be.
The second axiom of education is that parents' words about children do not learn anything. And what they teach? Real life situations, real life conditions. In other words, if you want to bring up a child in such character traits such as industriousness, it should create such conditions in the family, when the emergence of the character traits will be inevitable!
How can I do? It is not difficult. For example, a child wants a new computer-prefix or a bicycle. There is, amain, run and buy it for their sons. The best way to explain to the child that free money the family does not. And then offer them to their own work. Under your leadership tactful, of course. J
What is the use trying to explain to a child who is already infected "dependent psychology", that we should work hard and do not be lazy, etc.? This is insufficient. The child may be deaf and blind to your arguments. No one wants to stretch, when, and so gets all the benefits without any effort.
So, no words to act, but with deeds. There is no need to convince. :)
No, of course, to talk with their children need, if the child wants to know the reasons for your behavior. But if you like Smart parents do not have to practice in front of the child and encourages him to be ethical.
The child, some things will not be able to understand until a person becomes an adult. But when will then understand they already own. And you say "thank you". :)
In general, do not create unnecessary boltologii, and place the child in real life conditions. Only in this way the child will successfully adjust to adult life.
Here's my gossip, chat with some of the readers already like adults ... I try to convince them that they have a strong personality. And what result? Sometimes, no!
No, I have no influence on these people because their parents give them a child "fade psychology". I have no way to change their "dependency mentality". This should be done in childhood.
Whew! Now they are unhappy people. There are already unable to do in life.
But psychologists who defend "fade psychology", certainly, there are many. Fortunately, I am not familiar with. But I can assume why they do it.
Why? Yes because they themselves are infected "dependent psychology". They sit in budgetary institutions (including in children's homes), any private practice do not deal with. That's like defending yourself in pity pressure!
To say, defending a similar mentality. Is it not so?
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