Louise Hay

COMMUNICATION WITH OUR PARENTS

     The most difficult stage of my growing up was for my teenage years. During this period, I have encountered a great many questions that I did not want a ready-made answers, especially from adults. I still wanted to know itself, and no one believed it. Most hostile I was set to their parents - they made me suffer. My mind can not understand how my stepfather could so treat me hours why my mother turned a blind eye to all. I felt betrayed and misunderstood. I was sure that the whole world, including my family against me.

     Subsequently, advising other people, most of them young, I found that the feeling of rejection of their parents is typical for many. Here are some of the words with which teenagers describe their relationships with their parents: in the cell, under the supervision of, a spy, does not understand.

     Of course, it would be great to have parents who can instantly get used to anything new. However, in most cases this is not happening. Our parents - most ordinary people, just like you and me. Still, we have to get offended when they come to us unjust or unreasonable to behave.

         When we grow up, we often say to ourselves, "I will bring up their children in a different way." However, all that we know - the science around us. Sooner or later we begin to unconsciously imitate our parents.

        I am sure that each person needs to find the time to find out all about the childhood of their parents. If your parents are still alive, ask them: "What do you remember from your childhood? With love in your family How you punish parents? What was your problem? Do your parents, those with whom you went on a date? Ever worked you were a child? "

     By learning more about his parents, we gradually understand the atmosphere in which to form their character. Understand why they treat us this way and not some other way. Learning to empathize with the parents, we see their lives in a completely different light. And it will help us even more to love them. Most of all, our relationship with them will change: communication will be based on love, mutual respect and trust.

     If you find it difficult to talk to their parents, start a conversation in the mirror first. Imagine that they are in front of you and say: "I would like to ask you something." Work out in a few days. This will help you think about what you tell them. You can also talk with the parents mind during meditation. This is one of the best ways to express what grieved at heart, and solve your common problems. Forgive parents and myself.

     Tell them about their love. Then, get ready to talk to them is really, in the real world. I want to say again that, by entering into the spiritual development, we must reject the idea to change the others. First of all, we need to get rid of the negative emotions associated with the fact that our parents were not such as we would like them to be. And then we have to forgive them for it. We always want everyone to be the same as we are: in the same thought as well dressed, and there were ... But we know that people are so different.

     We want to see us have recognized the right to express themselves and their own inner space. But for that we need to let other people be what they are. Forcing parents breathes very unnatural, we do not allow ourselves to be loved. We judge the parents as they judge us if we want to find common ground with the parents, we need to abandon preconceived judgments about them.

     Many of you have as adults, continue with their parents struggle for power in the family. Available parents have many ways to not let you go away. If you want to stop the game, you need to get out of it. It's time to grow up and decide what you really want. We can start by reaching out to parents by name. When you're on the fourth nine calls them "mom" and "dad", then continue to play the role of a helpless baby. Communicate with them as an equal. Another suggestion is to write the text affirmations, which will be described in detail the type of relationship that you would like to have with your father or mother. Start with the fact that the declaration read aloud and take it. A little later it is important to investigate the parents. Of course, not in writing. In that case, if your father or mother are still "pull the strings", you need more time to talk to them.

     Perhaps some of them do not understand what you are feeling. You have a right to their own lives. You have the right to be an adult. Although I know it's not easy. First, decide exactly what you need, and then to talk about it with their parents. Do not make them feel guilty. It is better to ask, "How do we proceed?"

     Remember that with understanding comes forgiveness, and with forgiveness comes love. If we are able to love and forgive their parents, then we have a good chance to enjoy communication with each of our lives.