Louise Hay
MUTUAL RELATIONS BASED

     Personal relationships for many of us to play a major role in life. Perhaps you are always looking for love. Hunting for love does not lead to familiarity with reliable partners that would meet all our requirements. Hunting for love, we do not know exactly what we need. We think, "If only somebody loved me, my life would be a lot better."

     But this is not the path to be followed.

     I recommend one exercise. Tell us what you would like to sit your relationship with another person. Please specify which ones - intimate, open, reliable, fun, etc. Take a look at your list. Do you think that this is an unattainable ideal? And you are ready to meet their requirements?

     There is a huge difference between the need for love and longing for love. When you crave love, it means that you really do not have enough love and approval of the most expensive and important for you man. I'm talking about yourself. As a result, you are involved in a relationship of mutual dependence with his partner. They do not benefit you or him.

     When we need someone to express themselves more, we fall under the dependence of the man. Hoping that someone else will take care of the pass, we lose control over their own lives. Many of those who grew up in dysfunctional families, know that such a state of dependence. For years I was convinced that nothing, no good, and vainly sought everywhere love and approval.

     When you are constantly talking to another person what to do, then you are probably trying to manipulate it. This leads to disastrous results. But if you spend working to change their own patterns of thinking, the wasp goes on and your relationships are better than ever.

     Go to the mirror. Look into the eyes of my reflection and think about what negative attitudes about the nature of human relationships you have learned with them from childhood. Do you understand that your behavior is controlled by all of the same settings that are growing stronger with age? Think of all the good in what you believed as a child. It is now in your life the same Sazhnev role as negative attitudes?

     Tell yourself that the negative view of human relationships you do not fit: you replace them with new ones - are positive. You may want to write them on a piece of paper and hang it in a prominent place. Be with yourself maximum patience. Accustom themselves to new ideas, just as you did with the old. Many times I went back to his old patterns of thinking. Nevertheless, the victory was a result of: new ideas are firmly rooted in my mind.

     Remember that if you are able to contribute to the execution of your desires, you will not be dependent on praise and help other people. The question is how much you love yourself. When a person truly loves himself, he is calm, balanced n confident of its security. He has a great relationship with home n colleagues. Suddenly he discovers that the very different response to different situations and actions. What was once for him it was very important, and now has no value. His life consists of new people, and old acquaintance gradually lose interest for him. At first, it may seem scary. However, I am sure that you will get from this exciting process fun.

     When you realize what kind of relationship you want, start to "go out." Meet, meet and communicate with people. No one will be at the threshold of your home suddenly.

     Make it as convenient to you. You can go to the support group meetings. You can visit other like-minded countries. Travel - very good for singles, especially when you are with the satellites have not only the route, but also common interests. I suggest you the affirmation: "I am open and receptive to a wonderful experience, filled my life."

     It's better than just say, "I'm looking for a new lover." Be open and receptive, then the universe will help you.

     You will discover that, as increases your self-love, and self-esteem grows. Changes you need to happen much faster and easier if you know exactly what to expect from life. Love does not happen is the person - she lives in it. The more you love, the more love surrounded.