Is the family dead? I talked about the current disintegration of the family, but left the subject open. Today I continue with it.
The family as an institution of society does not die, and reborn. Dying, reborn. I would say so.
In fact, men will continue to love a woman, man and woman, and children will be born, and they will live together. But, nevertheless, the modern family ?fever?. I have already given the impressive numbers of divorces, the percentage of successful and unhappy marriages and the like. Not be repeated.
Why is this happening? Because modern man is not fully aware of the what he wants really.
Sex? Respect? Some relevance to me? Confidence? Admiration for each other? Care and tenderness? Confidence in the future? Material support? Psychological support?
You see, it all depends on the particular person. And intrinsic value (life priorities) of people constantly changing. When they do not sostykovyvayutsya with the values, priorities, a beloved person, the relationship die.
People are trying to diversify their romantic relationships over the method. And every time they think: ?Behold, here is the same! Here is the very person who I need. It is exactly what I need. Here it is happiness ?.
But, alas, people are continually changing. And even if your favorite person does not change with time, it is still changing yourself.
The same external stimulus may not always cause the same feelings, how could they have not been pleasant.
Everything changes. And it does not depend on our will and conscience. Perhaps this is one of the most important principles of life.
The people themselves must change to match one another. They must learn new skills, skills, desires, if you want to stay together with each other.
But most modern people do not want to change and learn something new, especially in romantic relationships. They think that love - is ?boom?, ?bang?, ?Tarará? - broke out - and for life!
This does not happen.
Actual quote:
George Bernard Shaw: ?When two people are under the influence of the most boisterous, very mad, very misleading and the passing of all passions, then they will be required to swear that they will remain in this unnatural state of exhaustion and taut until death do not separate them ?.
Love in all the usual sense - it is emotional excitement. As with any physiological arousal, it has its own pattern of development and extinction.
As with any physiological excitation, they can manage, create it, enhance and destroy. Emotional excitement fading.
Any competent psychologist to understand this, and here it is not about conspiracy but about the outcome of serious socio-psychological research. That's all.
Therefore, a stable family is maintained, but only for people in more developed psychologically, for the strengths of people, rather than impulsive.
As long as people will lead the uncontrollable emotions, impulses, he will not be able to realize the value of long-term, stable family relationships. It is also clear!
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