Nothing in life is not accidental, including those in romantic relationships. Living with an enviable regularity satisfies us important lessons, and we or acquires these lessons, or lose themselves, psychologically "die".
"Dying" do not need, you need to live. We need to live and try to understand what was the specific lesson? What can it make? What should I do or do and what not to do?
Often "unwitting" teachers were very close and dear to us, people, actions which compel us to re-evaluate themselves, their behavior, understanding the essence of things.
Problems in romantic relationships - it is an incentive for the development of a strong personality. Perceive these situations differently bad, very painful, unpleasant and pointless.
I am sure that this love relationship can not be without hazards. There is "perfect" love relationship, just as there is no "ideal" people.
And if the same people "ideal" suited to each other, they have lost the incentive to develop. To develop relations, if they "ideal"? Of course, only in the "nonideality", ie degradation.
Indeed, nothing in this world can not remain stable, and nothing happens "forever".
Joy replaces pain, disappointment fascinated by the success of failure, alienation warmth, laughter with tears, victory loser. If you do not understand that life is very quickly make you realize it. And if not force, then so much the worse for you.
If you dream about the love life without crisis, then you do not understand, and even dual sometime contradictory human nature, the nature of the human psyche.
But this understanding comes only with experience. And if hard to accept what I say, that life always gives you that experience. And that experience should take and comprehend, this will be another step to your internal development.
My friends, the pleasure of love is wonderful, but it is nothing anyone can teach. This is obvious.
Teach more often - this suffering. And only thanks to them we have an excellent chance in the development. Evolve - it means changing from the inside, it means to become better, stronger and stronger.
Breaking, at least psychologically, the unexpected difficulties of the person becomes stronger. He becomes capable of more. It opens with new resources and new opportunities. He knows better than itself.
You may be surprised that I write in the light of the problems in romantic relationships. I am somewhat surprised by myself. But what can I do? Universal laws of life everywhere and always.
Sometimes happens that the relationship is no longer possible to return (the person died, or left, or abandoned your love).
However, it is clear that no one prevents you continue to love people, even if it is not near. Moreover, in my opinion, it is at these moments, and manifested the true essence of love.
Actual quote:
Viktor Frankl: "Let us ask the skeptic to imagine that the one person he loved, lost to him forever ... then he offered a double beloved creatures - a man who in body and temperament perfectly like it. Now we ask the question that the skeptics may Does he turn his love for this other woman - and he had to admit that he was unable to do so.
Such a "transfer" true love is unthinkable. Because anyone who likes a really, least of all think about some mental and physical characteristics of the beloved, he does not think about any feature of its character, and what it is in its uniqueness. And as a unique personality, it can not be replaced by any double what would be perfect as this "duplicate" ".
Frankl believes that it is in such moments, we can understand and appreciate the meaning of his love - whether it is true love (that is, applied to human beings as unique and irreplaceable merits), or whether it was a hobby (exchangeable relations).
I also believe that the situation puts the gap love relationships to each critical question: "Can I love this man, despite the fact that he no longer loves me? And what does it mean at all - to love? "
Of course, for someone such issues do not arise. It is their own business, how deep the relationship they are able and willing to build with other people.
We need to learn to distinguish between two things in the relationship - it is this passion and love. True love requires awareness of the value and uniqueness of the identity of a beloved person.
Actual quote:
Viktor Frankl: "Love inevitably enriches the one who loves. And if so, then there can be no such thing as" undivided, unhappy love ". In fact this term contains an internal contradiction. Either you really like - and in this case, you should feel rich, regardless of whether you share the love or not - or do not like to really not trying to penetrate the essence of another human being, but rather completely ignore that the essence of ...
As the audience in the theater, actors, acting in his life, usually find that the tragedy - it is a more profound experience than the comedy. Even when our emotions of love are unhappy, we are not only richer but also get a better sense of life, such experiences lead to internal growth and personal maturity.
From all the above, obviously, that we should be thankful to the undivided love because it will help to understand the richness and uniqueness of a beloved person and to reveal the internal capacity to love.
This issue remains open. All at once impossible.
Information for thought:
As a result of large-scale social research is not more than 25% of couples in Western countries recognize their marriage happy. Why do you think?
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