Paul Ferrini

The dictatorship of the agreement

The basis of the idea of ​​love is selfish consent. From her point of view, love is impossible, if the two people do not agree. And yet, until you are free to agree or disagree with his neighbor, in some situations, you can not love him.

If, for example, your brother says that he - the victim against him someone's actions, do you agree with him? Of course not. Even if he will beg you to support him in this error, you say, "Excuse me, brother, I do it a different way."

On the other hand, if your neighbor found it necessary to take the perceived ambiguous position and asks for support, do not you deny it? Perhaps it would be risky for you, but you do not deprive your neighbor blessing only because he does not behave like everyone else.

Should I remind you that the commitment to truth is not popular? Very often, this means that you have to say "yes" when others would say "no" and say "no" when others would say "yes."

Many of you do not realize that "no" can sometimes be a manifestation of love. And yet, to say "no" with love very easily.

If your child pulls his hand to a hot stove, you say "No!" Quickly and decisively. You do not want him to self-harm. And then hug him and repeat that you love him.

How many times have you seen her brother, put his hand on the stove? You can not encourage behavior that is likely to be detrimental to the other person. And you do not want your friends encouraged you in such matters.

Friend - the one who is free to agree or disagree. A friend will tell you the truth. He can see the situation is right or wrong, but he is not afraid to give you my opinion. A friend tells you the truth, and then reminds you're free to make their own choices.

Such is love in action. A friend loves you the same way and when he says "no," and when he says "yes." He does not deny thee in the way, and does not try to impose their views. A friend wants to be helpful. He treats you with respect, so telling the truth.

You can not be a friend, if not ready to tell the truth. This does not mean that you are necessarily right. To be right and to be honest - not necessarily one and the same.

When you are honest, you give the best that you can give on the basis of what you know. That's all we can expect from you. It does not matter, your advice was right or wrong.

But one honest enough. Honesty should go hand in hand with humility. Your humble brother said, "I know it is. I may be right, but I can be wrong. What do you think about that? In the end, it's you. "

A humble man observes the proper limits. He never violates the rights of others to make their own choices and does not want to take responsibility, which he carries.

Constantly striving to agree, you rarely feel the love unconditional. Consent is a primary condition, but because it is there in the first place, rooted your mutual dependence or unwritten agreement. She says: "If I am your will according to mine, then I'll support you."

(To be continued)