Dear readers! I have already expressed this idea, and now want to justify it in more detail. So in 10 years, the child itself should earn money and engage in some socially useful, interesting him the activities.
Remember, please, about the lessons of "community service" in high school. This is silly, bordering on stagnation, it is absolutely meaningless and stupid.
Now I would like to identify the primary, in my view, the social problem of childhood and adolescence (teens to about 18 years of age).
The problem is this: we (the adults) do not believe that children and adolescents as full human beings (individuals), limiting their freedom, absolves them accountable for the consequences of their actions (omissions).
And now I must explain that I have in mind, referring to the "limiting freedom" and "Disclaimer".
It does not refer to a system of rewards and punishments, which adults usually bring up children (love, attention, approval, financial support - on the one hand, or dislike, disapproval, condemnation, loss of other benefits - the other side).
Just the opposite!
Give freedom to the child or young person - it means to release him completely from the "system of rewards and punishment" on the part of parents, educators and teachers.
Give your child freedom and allow him to feel responsible for their decisions and actions, that, among other things, means:
- Give your child the freedom to decide - to walk him to school or not;
- Give your child the freedom to decide - do it in high school, or what not to do;
- Give your child the freedom to find and select the very profession and occupation;
- Give your child the freedom to choose the most friends, loved ones;
- Give your child the freedom to make the most of the excesses and the good that he wants to be;
- Give him the opportunity to participate in making the most responsible decisions in the family
Some may exclaim: "I, and so they give your child the freedom!"
Remarkably, if so. However, many adults tend to delude themselves, thinking that they give the child freedom, whereas, in fact, nothing of the sort not!
Give your child the freedom - it means to give him the opportunity to face the consequences of his own decisions! You see? Only in this case, the child will grow up responsible and man!
Take the example of freedom to decide - to go to school or not. You may, of course, convinced that the child is given to go to school! And you teach it to the thoughts that go to school here.
As a result, the child does not SELECTS! And if he does not choose, he does not feel, and is not responsible for that decision - to go or not go to school! It just automatically thought that going to school here. It is necessary, and all here.
But in doing so, you just do not give your child a choice. You do not give your child the opportunity to take a decision himself and to feel responsible for that decision!
So now read automatically taking over the child all major decisions in his life, you deprive him from becoming independent and responsible. See how simple?
So take a look! This is a vivid example of the initial formation of the child psychology of the employee. This child is not accustomed to choose and take responsibility for your own personal choice.
That is the whole essence! Indeed, a strong personality - a person who does not work automatically. It is not automatic! Machine can not create anything new and original.
Just the opposite, a strong personality is able to deeply reflect, get to the heart of things, choose, decide, act and take personal responsibility for the results of their decisions.
That is the essence of something. Because of this ability to precisely and not many people who act in their lives, mostly automatically.
"School - High School - Family - Work - Retirement - Cemetery".
They live their lives automatically. Leave in obscurity and forgotten nothing since the original is not leaving this life.
And if, say, your child does not like to go to school? He must still? And why his personal impressions and findings of your misconceptions? Alternatively, you certainly feel a lot smarter than your child, right?
And I now believe that in modern schools do not have to go. Anything it does not teach, but only rape mentality and intelligence of children. But it is - a separate conversation.
I do believe that there is no "the crisis of adolescence", as a certain "natural" phenomenon of human life does not exist.
The crisis of adolescence - it is actually Mutiny (with a psychological point of view) of the person for their independence and individuality. This revolt against INAPPROPRIATE style education, improper treatment of a child in the family.
So, a short conclusion. I tried to show an example that foster a strong identity - it does not mean to bring up machine, does it mean to bring up human self, is fully aware of themselves and life situation.
To raise so - you need to send your child full responsibility for making key decisions in his life. If you bring up the child so, for 10 years, he is able to earn a living, and helping yourself and your family.
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