One of the key differences from the human animal is that people can look at the world not only from our own position (although there are suspicions that nektorye animals, such as crows, dolphins, and others may also). A person may, for example, look at yourself from the (dissociate). Naturally, this will bug, which you represent yourself as you see yourself from outside. But once you do, you immediately get access to the information which you have not been (correctly, that was, but still available), until you look at the world from his face (from the 1 st position perception).
If you need to know how you look, when to do something, it is an indispensable skill. I must say that the mirror will not help here, and pull the camera and you can see is not always the case. But remember that you are doing and to see how it looked from the side - you can always. ... Oh, the horror! Do I have to look like?! No, no, no ... better I do not remember! ... So, now pererisuem this movie ... At this point you are using a second unique opportunity dissociation - introducing themselves by the way you would like to see you pereprogrammiruete its behavior to the desired. Yes! That's all you need to do that next time look like you want to! And you will not need to bear that in mind - your unconscious itself plays necessary steps to create a dynamic image.
And now let's imagine a more difficult task. Suppose you need to not just look good, but look right at someone specific criteria, in accordance with his / her understanding of how it would be correct. This may be a date, a device to work, negotiations with potential clients, or any other meetings, where only one chance, and hit the top ten of our future depends on a number of years. Meet because we are not on the mind, but for what? But handsome is that on ...? So, to understand how we will be right to look and what behavior you want to show that a profitable place to specify the person, the best that you can do is the following.
Imagine how it was if you were him / her. How would you feel if you are worried, concerned that it would be important to you, what is interesting, that pleasure, that is disgusting and unacceptable, etc. Simply associated with him / her and wait and so a few minutes. Two is enough.
If you find the ability to walk his / her gait, to say something in his / her way, or at least play some typical gestures of this man, you will be unconscious and rafiniruet this amount of information about this man that could even predict his / its decision. If certainly not knowingly interfere. Ask him not to interfere.
So, suppose you were able to associate itself fully with the person you want (called - enter with him into 2 nd position). So, now you can think of his / her way. And now (when you are - he / she) just imagine yourself going to see you, staying in front of you and you speak any words. You the man, and you look at yourself, talking to you ... You can even hear that, with an accuracy of intonation. Listen to the end. Now answer the questions: What do you like this person (you, speaking to you)? What you do not like this person? And that this person (you will say to you when you are - he / she) could do this, what would it affect you to the depths of the soul? You now know that you are important and interesting when you have him / her?
So now all you have to do is stay by him / her to see you appear in front of you (when you he / she) and the speaker's something so that it is very like you. Simply create this movie. And remember. I now can go to a meeting and just do what you want, without thinking about how to behave - you all will turn out automatically.
Please note that this is not a conscious strategy of assessing behavior at the time of this very behavior. This is self-defeating exercise - if you want to check;) That the procedure that I described - it is pure software, that is - the creation of the program. NLP (neuro-lingvistiecheskoe programming), as it is. In the domestic context.
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