Yet this formula is called the formula of happiness. For it shows that we are experiencing positive emotions, when the result was more than our expectations, and negative - when less. However, the most interesting thing is that it shows is that what emotions to experience - choose us. If the result may still depend on many factors, the expectations - purely subjective. That is, we decide what we rightly expect from life, in what quantities and how soon.
The formula of happiness.
The philosophy of Buddhist monks in this context, it becomes a great tool for happiness: when you live as if you do not belong, and the next moment - the mystery, even the smallest joy, smiles like a random passerby, sunrise brought by wind or smell a flower cause 100% positive emotions.
Podhvatyvaya this idea, canny mind may try to take away on slippery roads - as pelos sang one group, about which it is now almost no one remembers: "Trust in the worst, you will not be disappointed ...." But for every trick and it is no wonder many shortsighted. If you expect less than what you would like, then you still have what you would like (that something was "the worst" should be something worse than what is worst). And as a result of the emotions are the same ambivalence and false, and expectations. But if someone genuinely expects the worst, it is likely that sooner or later it is the worst it will happen, simply because he prityanet their expectations. Not to mention that to live, expecting the worst, this in itself is already ne_schaste, whatever the outcome.
What to do with their expectations to moving to the results and remember them, to maintain a positive emotional background in spite of everything?
The answer to this question, each will be extremely unique, because we all have a different mentality, but the essence is one - is not attached to the result, not to cling to him (so forgive me your unconscious for not assertive wording:). In other words, to hold the difference between the intention of obtaining the result, and by the expectation of this result.
Intention to get a result - this impulse of thought, or impulse will (one or more times - it does not matter). This is a purely technical step towards the goal.
Expectation - is a process of observation of life through a frame. It is like the eyes, riveted to the notch on the thermometer or temperature to the arrow on the dial alarm clock. Expectations - this is a philosophy of perception of the world outlook. It has nothing to do with the very steps to achieve the goal.
Any expectation - this is an illusion, this is the claim that you know something about the future with one hundred percent certainty. In fact, we can only suggest some options for future events with some probability and a margin of error. But our desire to make us cling to the "preferred option", and create expectations. So the desire create suffering (you can hear about it in the eastern traditions). Be equally open to any scenario, and your willingness to serve you.
Wait just anything.
When we all look forward to anything, we will disclose your mind to no-wait through his habit to expect.
When a person expects something specific, it increases the likelihood that the result they will be different. When we all look forward to anything, in fact we do not expect anything. "Frame" mode so large that its boundaries are not visible. Then we do not score. Then we are open to all results, and any, even without a significant result, is able to bring us joy.
If you find yourself in a situation in which "do not know what to wait, or do not know what to choose, try to play one game. Imagine that from now on, all versions of events begin to happen simultaneously. Porisuyte them to finish, or a key point to key details. Then, go back to your question.
Expectations and purity of mind.
There are things that are "expected to have." That is, when not thinking about anything, or just expect anything, they appear as if from the depths of the subconscious and begin to "Think" and "expected." Although seemingly obvious reasons, and perceived to have no presentiment.
This happens when we live inside the "no perevarenny" past experience. Something that happened to us ever, and the attitude to which we have not closed any single solution. For example, this may the situation in which we do not know how to react if they recur in the future, or any of our (or somebody else's) actions, which have not changed, but we still can not accept. Or something else. These unfinished processes will emerge again and again, when our mind is to stop any activity or to turn off any "glushilku, like work, shopping, TV, or stronger. They are similar to programs in our computer, which ran and forgot to close. And there is only one way to close these programs - is to bring them to our attention and do what you want (to find solutions, accept faits, etc.).
Exceeded expectations.
Marketing and sellers are well aware of this formula. They have a reception, called "Exceeding expectations". When you buy something from them, in conclusion, they make you a Present or a small bonus, thus giving you the result is a bit more than your expectations were. The gift can be significantly cheaper than a discount that they could entrap you, but positive emotions will be stronger, because you do not expect a gift. This slight preponderance of positive emotions not only attract customers to them again, but will serve as the piggy bank rating company on the subconscious level of the buyer.
However, people involved in the promotion and sale, is to remember that this mechanism works in the opposite direction.
Forming expectations
Create the expectation from other people quite easily. Figuratively and forcefully enough to tell what will be (that they will be) and explain why this happens and how it will happen. Despite the above, we talked about the ability to live without expectations, in some cases, any expectations better than their complete absence (for example, because of uncleanness of mind). Expectations create a certain comfort for the mind, people feel that they know what will and this allows them to calm down, enter into a state of security and confidence. At the stage of "development of the new territory" is necessary for success. Also, like the complete lack of expectations in a state of absolute fame needed to be able to enjoy the results are already commonplace.
Emotions = result - waiting
In this formula, only one element of part does not depend on us.
Enjoy your emotions!
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