Social role - is a complex operating in the formal and informal rules governing behavior of individuals and public expectations associated with a specific social situation right.
It is necessary to clarify the concept of public (social) situation. It is a place in the social structure that defines the objectives, functions, duties and privileges of the individual. It determines to what extent and how the individual should participate in group activities. Here is the principle: the higher the social status of people, the wider it is open access to the desired benefits in a given society.
There are at least five types of social status in society, associated with the biological properties of the work performed, the level of power, family responsibilities, participation in informal groups.
Social status can be viewed as:
a set of factors that commit the individual to other people and form the basis for comparing it with other people in the categories of "best-worst";
line or figure, attributed to an individual or group to determine their status or importance;
synonym for social status. Among the factors of social status include:
individual characteristics of the person (skin color, gender, education, religion, financial status);
features of interpersonal relationships (marital status, work experience, social background, power);
relations connected with personal inclinations (a commonality of interests, attitudes, respect).
We learned the concept of role will relates to the subjective role of human beings, as well as to the requirements of that role. Particular emphasis we put on the relations between them and the implications arising from the degree of their conformity or non-compliance.
The following journals and the lessons we will look at the essence of the child (lesson 21), the pupil / student (class 22), partner / spouse (lesson 23), worker (lesson 24), parent (lesson 25). We also define how to combine these so our different social roles (lesson 26).
As the child plays the role of their parents
Love one another, but let the love no pressure as the loop, though it will be like the sea,
fragile shores of your souls.
Fill each other's vessels, but do not drink from a cup.
Share with each other with bread,
but do not break a piece.
Stand close but not too close,
as oak and cypress, which are growing well,
that no one obscures the other.
Al-Mustapha.
Our discussion of the role of the child's own parents, I want to start with the allegations, which, I think you can not disagree: one a parent does not choose, but the problems in relations with them there (on average) less than in the relations with partners, where we choose, as well as less than our children ...
Angry mothers often warn their children: "You become a parent myself, and your child will tell you how hard it is - be a parent." It is really difficult, than to be the child's own parents. These difficulties are often viewed as the result of mistakes in the upbringing and overuse of custody: "I am a bad mother because I was brought up a bad mother," I do not know how to heat treat a partner, because to me those were ... " .
This demonstrates the need for the withdrawal of voltage is not identified as a child in the relationship with his mother and father, as well as the presence of emotional disorders, and irregular samples of communication, formed in the course of those relations. Indeed, it happens that our wounds are serious obstacles to excellence in the performance of certain roles. Sometimes it can be over-generalizing, but sometimes ... flight from responsibility. The issue we will return at the end of the lesson.
What constitutes the role of the child? Ask yourself: what is your own definition of that role (subjective role)? What you should have an obligation, and what do you want to enjoy her performance? What are the responsibilities associated with it, according to your environment? Do you agree with this situation?
What is known about the role of the child? A little bit. Experimenters and theorists often see it as a "temporary" and focus on the role of parent. This is not quite correct.
A child's own parents in the biological and social terms, people remain all their lives.
Even if our parents have died, dropped out of us, were we zly, unfair - and maybe that's why - we still stand by their children. We wear them yourself. What they gave us and which denied, as presented and what is denied, and forms our identity. And therefore we must be. As adults, independent people, we can use capital or given to us to make efforts to compensate for deficiencies.
Many write about what should be the parents, but this topic we will discuss in class 25. Much less the two roles (parent and child) are considered in the relationship. Therefore, read the following quote. American psychologists M. Singer and L. Winnie argue that in healthy families, parents "listen carefully to what children say, exchanged views with them, building mutual understanding. Children learn skills such as: the study of reality, understanding themselves as individuals, their own merits and weaknesses, interests and abilities to establish contacts and participate in the planning and implementation of joint activities. "
In psychological and educational literature describes the features of the process of maturation and adoption of new social roles. The growing child must approve and adopt the role defined by his sex, and become independent. In doing so, he must establish with the parents and other adults a new relationship, based no longer on one subject. In adopting the new role - the family (marital and parental type), professional and community, the young man a new appreciation for their parents and establish their new relationship. Often, young people are held against the parent phase of standards. There is a sense of autonomy and vzroslosti, and a young man begins to form their relationship. What then happens in the relationship with parents?
Is there more to our culture of the biblical commandment to respect and honor their parents? What we seek from their parents, as adults, and what they want from us? How these requirements are interrelated?
Exercise 4. Determine the quality of your relationships
Using the classification of parental attitudes M. Zemskov, I suggest you look no mother and father, and your mutual relationship with them. The model of parental attitudes, which we use here, includes 4 parameters: the closeness, support, freedom, and requirements. Determine the quality of your mutual respect, marked in pencil description correctly describes your relationship:
disaffection, alienation X
excessive care obereganie X
lack of assistance and support needed assistance
X X
lack of standards, absolute freedom
X
allowed freedom of X
excessive control, dictatorship
X
complete absence of claims X
reasonable demands X
excessive demands X
This scheme does not explore deeply within the family context, but makes it possible to determine the particular position of the parent. Experiment and try to describe what happens between you. Discuss the conclusions that you came from Попутчиком. Have you opened something new, or renewed their former views? How do you think describe your relationship to my mother, but as a father? You can write their ideas and then test them in a conversation with them.
It must again caution that the topic and its related activities can lead to feelings and memories, which you tried to escape, or that do not like to come back. You may be able to understand what could not before. All can happen ...
Remember to take care of themselves. You should know exactly how and whom to contact for help if you're unable to cope with their own emotions and restore balance.
Achieving a high level of self and identity is a creative process, long and laborious. However, remember that when choosing any exercise, you are acting for their own good. Trust intuition, but do not forget to ask myself: Is this you exercise, whether or not to implement it?
Our parents ... Try to approach this topic without coarseness and falsehood. They say: strong, caring, simple, real, biological, adoptive ... You can find the classification of positions and the parents: overly protect, reject, liberal, authoritarian, democratic ... They are also referred to as enabling and punished.
Regardless of which of these descriptions seem to you true, remember those that we are talking about your parents. Others you will never be. This is so awful and yet so perfect.
In this journal we will not consider the parents at all. We will try to understand their specific characteristics. In doing so, we will try to focus "solely on the positive emotions. Why?" If you yourself want to become good parents who successfully carry out this role, you will certainly need to understand the mistakes of their parents. But far more important to know the strengths of our moms and dads.
EXAMPLE.
About Imagine an athlete, such as boxers, which is being focused on what he should not do ...
It is his fear constraining and limiting, even if he avoids the mistakes of famous masters of the past.
We effectively learn from the mistakes, if our mistakes and if we were able to understand and try not to repeat! Believe that it is! And now for the cause!
Exercise 5. It's me, your mother goat ...
Take comfortable. You can take and recumbency (just not filmed). Near by you shall be your companion, or another trusted person, you feel free and in the presence of which does not robeete. If such a person is not, can perform an exercise in writing. But the version with the verbal monologue is much better.
In a comfortable position, taking care of comfort for themselves and a partner for the duration of the exercises, you have to please a preliminary "warm-up."
Remember the stories your mother on a very early period of your life (or even when she was pregnant with you).
Do it because, regardless how old are you now, is still alive, your mother and what you have with the relationship.
Then close your eyes and try to provide photographs of my mother, in chronological order. In this phase of the exercises, you should speak with your eyes closed. Ask your partner to follow the time. This is a "tour of the family album" should not be too long: it is enough to 3-5 minutes. At the end of your story that could be seen in the pictures, open your eyes.
Take a partner to the question: "Had your mother were children - kozlyata, closed in the house, and she had to leave them alone (not ordering anyone to open the door, because a number of picks bad wolf), as would kozlyata it learned? Use this fabulous script ... Tell that its special characteristic: the color of eyes and hair, the shape, color ... Do not forget about the peculiarities of her voice, touch, gait. Focus on the characteristic of her, but causing pleasant emotions.
"Dress" your beloved mother in a dress, remember that a good, warm, nice, she talked to you ... or singing ... As touched you? What you laughed together? What smells and taste sensations you associate with it?
If a companion willing to help you draw, then they might read: "On what grounds could be found in the dark or with your eyes closed?", "How it could be to learn from afar?", "How do you recognize her on the phone ?
Companion of your consent may take the recorder and after listening, you can destroy the record when it will be too personal for you the facts ...
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