Once Robert Dilts Richard Bendlerom sitting in a biker bar. The audience there was a corresponding bar, with a lot of unpleasant personalities. Not that Dilts loved these institutions, but Bendleru for some reason they liked it.
In general, they sit there, gossip, do not touch, it would seem, everything is going well. And then the bar is composed of two ambala that are already in good condition, but still in a bad mood. The main desire of these types - what they came to this bar, it was fight. Perhaps, for Robert it was obvious that he was not local, because these ambaly soon turned their attention to Richard. They named their censorship speaking, homosexuals, and demanded to remove from the bar.
The first reaction of Robert, as most people in such cases, it was ignoring the aggressors. Naturally, this does not help, but only accelerated the development of the situation. One of the guys pushing Robert into the shoulder and spilling his beer. But Robert has decided to be friendly, looked at them and smiled. Then one of them asked: "What do you look?", And when Robert turned away, and another said: "Look at me when I speak with you."
The situation took a serious turn. Robert caught himself on the fact that began to be nasty. But, fortunately, he realized that if development goes according to the standard scenario, this is not a good end. And then (a time:)) he had the idea to take advantage of NLP. He tried to find in the actions of these guys a positive intention for a moment and looked at their world through the eyes. Then sighed deeply, and smooth and calm voice said, as that was the closest: "You know, I do not believe that you actually think us gay, you do see that on my wedding ring finger. I think you have what some other intention. " In response to that guy ryavknul: "Yes. We want to fight."
It would seem that Robert vlip worse. But, in fact, plunging the aggressors in the conversation, he made his communication with them mutual, which means now he can manage it.
"I understand you," - said Robert - "a good fight but we did not go. First, I do not want to fight, so much of me you did not get. And secondly, each one of you twice as much me - well that is this a fight? " At that second guy said: "No, honestly. Anyway this fight, because we're drunk." Then Robert turned to him and, looking in his eyes, said: "You do not think it will be like a father, returned home to beat his chetyrnadtsatiletnego son, and claims that all the truth, because he drunk?" Robert was sure that this guy is not just experienced something similar when he was fourteen.
Not knowing what to say, ambaly away from Robert and hang on to some other guy. And he was a master of karate. He promptly brought them to the street and well otlupil.
That story here. I read it in a book by Robert Diltsa "Focus language".
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