The essence of NLP in its full implementation - is effective modeling skills ingenious (or at least just successful) people. In short - technology is an effective self. For good NLPera find something nice to others and, if possible, to learn this straight "fly", it was natural. What I am about this under the heading?
Once I had was very interesting informal leadership and authority. Actually, due to this interest and I started studying NLP (and approximately 70% of everyone who comes in NLP), believing that there is a dog and porylas. Like many, I think there are any special techniques or tricks that can make (the floor-what!) Rights to do what you want ...
Dog porylas really there, and it turned out that the management of communication devices do exist (but they look different than I imagined them). But soon it turned out another funny thing, which I did not expect. Even in perfect owning powerful of these techniques does not always have to manage people and situations ... Why? Very simple. Because very often situation affects you is much stronger than you are at it. How?
The power situation.
In NLP there is such a term - "hypnosis situation." When a man blames himself that he did nothing, although able to ... This accusation is not legitimate. He really did the best he could there and then. The power situation is not noticeable, but very strong. It consists of a combination of factors: the emotional and physical state at the time of the situation, their own habits of response, the people around us and their assessment, the atmosphere of the place and time of day, the incompleteness of information on which we rely, desire, learning by us at the time of the situation and t . e. And all of this affects the rights so that the impact of technology, which it owns, just can not help him. Samurai sword can be excellent to own, but from the squad of archers of the sword will not save.
However, there are those who manage such as managing situations! Not only that they are easily managed by people in almost any situation, they have once done so that the majority of random factors in their favor! And then there is a good NLPersky question: "How do they come?"
If you ask the man: "How did you contrive not depend on the situation?", Then it is likely you will answer something like: "... does not depend on the situation? You what?" This situation depends on me! " And, you know, it would be absolutely right. In a literal sense. A paradox?
Let us go back to modeling.
When I realized that the technology and techniques of NLP, a powerful, but not all, I have decided that the only way to understand what gives the power of informal leaders on the situation, it is to do the same, as were the founders of NLP - the genius of this model. As it turned out ...
Informal leaders
Do these people have any receptions NLP? Even if they use them, most likely, not even suspected of it. Most of these people have become leaders not familiar with NLP or hypnosis and those who have mastered NLP - came to him, usually at a later date.
Do they have any innate abilities or personality, which is lacking in other people? Certainly. But most of them with those not born and brought up in themselves.
Lucky if they are somehow more than the other? Yes, and they have to do anything that could make, and sometimes even more.
So what's the secret of their chief? What makes them leaders?
The thing is ... not even in the strategy and style of thinking. Send it through the text, of course, impossible, but it is possible to describe the foundation. So ...
1. It starts with inner power. It creates it using the freedom of choice and the discipline to follow their choice. This quality, and allows them to not be in the situation, and create it. Internal power - is not just a state, this way of thinking: you simply can not go into a situation of "creating" it was originally in their head. Thinking about what would, however, you "build" their own vision of peace on the basis of its desired position in it (their priorities, their decisions, their views, etc.) and then, walking through life, choose the path that realize your vision.
2. Just one day to decide what to choose the path of his life, thou shalt, and after only follow the decision. Yes, not everyone will always be obtained within the accuracy of the so - stand on the death and neither of which is not going to compromise stupid. But to stay the course and to be faithful to the purposes and values, even when it is not easy. Your perseverance defines your leadership. People are instinctively attracted to the strong in spirit, for those who want to learn how to be able to live in the same way. So the system closes the circle that creates and strengthens the authority of the leader of his power is already in people's minds, making the internal power to the external power.
3. You can safely say that they do another, when ready to take responsibility for their decisions. A willingness to take responsibility comes when you know where you are going and I am sure this is true, and truly worth it. This knowledge and creates a force to encourage people to do what you are talking to them. If, of course, they share your goals and values.
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